Someone once said to me that as adults we like to ‘know, look good and be right!’ I don’t feel proud to admit it, but I believe this is true of most of us, myself included.
It is easy then to have an unconscious habit of wanting to be right, and despite my awareness of this, I was caught in the trap of trying to be right very recently. I had shared an idea that I thought was really beneficial to a friend who was looking for input as to ways to market her business. I was quite taken aback when she dismissed my idea on the basis that it didn’t feel right for her.
Usually, I would be respectful of this, however, the need to be right reared its ugly head and I went back to her again to clarify what I meant (assuming she didn’t get it the first time) and reiterated why I thought she should do what I thought. Not surprisingly, she politely rebuffed my idea (note less assertive people may not do that) and it was at this point that I realised I had fallen into the ‘liking to be right’ trap again!
Interestingly until the point of realisation of what I was doing, I was becoming quite agitated that she wasn’t getting my point, which wasn’t good for me and certainly made me present in a less than ideal way.
So, it’s time to be honest – are you attached to being right? Is it time to be more respectful and encouraging of others own ideas and opinions, after all they generally know what’s best for themselves, and we don’t!
I am learning that letting go of being right and being more humble wins the day every time!