It’s interesting how when we become conscious of something we can choose to change it. Most people wouldn’t be aware of their use of the word ‘for’ and today I am going to ask you to become aware of your usage of this.
Let’s check in to see the reasons why.
“Let me do that for you.”
“What can I do for you?”
Notice that, whilst the word can be interpreted as helpful, please be aware that it is often disempowering.
You are taking over and doing something for someone else. Now I can hear you arguing that sometimes this may be valid, and yes, I agree it may be, but can I suggest that many people have a habit of doing ‘for’ without even realising that is what they are doing. Let’s be clear that if the person, for whatever reason, isn’t capable of doing something for themselves (and let’s check in here – in who’s opinion is this ie is it true or a perception) then doing ‘for’ may be valid.
BUT generally speaking, people are far more capable than they realise and when we stop doing ‘for’ and allow them to do things themselves not only, do we empower people we also build their capability and confidence, which has to be a great thing to do.