“The greatest enemy of learning is knowing” John C Maxwell
Let’s acknowledge that knowing makes us feels good. It boosts our egos and enables us to help people by sharing our knowledge and wisdom. We feel good about ourselves when we have proven how wise, knowledgeable and helpful we are.
In fact, someone once said to me that as human beings we like to know, look good and be right. Whilst I don’t like to admit it, I have to agree with this, and our egos are big players here!
Let’s contrast this with not knowing.
Not knowing allows us to step into a place of both curiosity and humility. Although it also means that we are more vulnerable, and we fear judgement because we appear less capable.
BUT let’s acknowledge the strengths in this.
Firstly, we get to learn something we don’t know. We open ourselves up to new knowledge, wisdom and ideas that knowing would ordinarily block. This in turn makes us more wise and knowledgeable, which enables us to be more helpful going forward.
Secondly, you demonstrate a vulnerability and openness to the other person that is likely to lead to a deeper level of connection. People generally don’t like ‘know it alls’, they like people who are open to hearing what they have to say.
And thirdly, you get to make the other person feel good! They too, like to share their own knowledge, wisdom and expertise which gives their egos a boost and in turn makes them like you more!
Your choice to know or not know…………