I was fortunate to attend some lectures by an amazing Professor of Philosophy. He opened his lecture by saying:
“You only have a problem, if what you have isn’t what you want.”
I was in awe! I had never thought of a problem that way previously and suddenly I could see problems in a different light. We are all guilty of seeing the world through the same lens, which often then creates problems for us. If we have a fixed view of what we want (or indeed what is right or good), then problems inevitably will occur. BUT what if we can change the lens of what we want and then the problem either goes away or minimises.
By asking myself the question, “Can I accept or live with a different version of what I originally wanted?” I change my perspective and I stop wasting time dwelling on or trying to fix problems, when I don’t need to. Give it a go!